So, when do we expect from people ?
Can there be a truth in the line 'I dont expect anything from anyone ?'
I checked. into my own life. into life of people around me.
We expect. We expect when the society tell us that there needs to be an expectation from that archetype. We tend to expect from our family members. because we are told to do so. Oh, she is your mom, and she does not do this for you ? Your husband does not pick your calls ?
Who set this expectation module ? it has been developed via the years where in we tend to expect from the near and dear ones. And in a way burden them with our expectations.
And what is this expectation from the people we love ? Why should they be supporting you in every move of yours. Logically speaking it is not needed. They may have their own life, own personal space. Like we look for one.
Is the expectation also a tit for tat. I give 110 percent to this relationship and so should the relation to me. Is it valid ask ?
I do not know.
But despite the logical thinking I think as social animal we expect from the near and dear ones when we are unable to do something ourselves and a unit. Today we have professional help available. But we want our near ones to be next to us when we are in the hospital bed. We expect from people who are friends, who have said this one thing to us - I will be there for you whenever you need me. We tend to trust those words. Oh, were they said just for the sake of it ?
What does one do when the near and dear ones (read blood relations) supposed to helping you in the case of a need are not available due to whatever reasons ?
It is very easy to say, to build this logic that you should be doing everything yourself. And help does come from unexpected avenues. always. you get help. you get love. you are admired. you are supported. But if that person whom you are expecting from is not in the picture just leads to disappointment.
Sometimes it comes to my mind, is it a valid ask to trouble your near and dear ones and burden them with your expectations. How well balanced can one's mind be to not expect at all ? And then will there be a day, that you turn so independent that you drive people away because of that ? will those people understand that you drove them away because you did not get help from people - who fitted in the stereotypical roles likewise ?
Will they expect you to expect ?
Can there be a truth in the line 'I dont expect anything from anyone ?'
I checked. into my own life. into life of people around me.
We expect. We expect when the society tell us that there needs to be an expectation from that archetype. We tend to expect from our family members. because we are told to do so. Oh, she is your mom, and she does not do this for you ? Your husband does not pick your calls ?
Who set this expectation module ? it has been developed via the years where in we tend to expect from the near and dear ones. And in a way burden them with our expectations.
And what is this expectation from the people we love ? Why should they be supporting you in every move of yours. Logically speaking it is not needed. They may have their own life, own personal space. Like we look for one.
Is the expectation also a tit for tat. I give 110 percent to this relationship and so should the relation to me. Is it valid ask ?
I do not know.
But despite the logical thinking I think as social animal we expect from the near and dear ones when we are unable to do something ourselves and a unit. Today we have professional help available. But we want our near ones to be next to us when we are in the hospital bed. We expect from people who are friends, who have said this one thing to us - I will be there for you whenever you need me. We tend to trust those words. Oh, were they said just for the sake of it ?
What does one do when the near and dear ones (read blood relations) supposed to helping you in the case of a need are not available due to whatever reasons ?
It is very easy to say, to build this logic that you should be doing everything yourself. And help does come from unexpected avenues. always. you get help. you get love. you are admired. you are supported. But if that person whom you are expecting from is not in the picture just leads to disappointment.
Sometimes it comes to my mind, is it a valid ask to trouble your near and dear ones and burden them with your expectations. How well balanced can one's mind be to not expect at all ? And then will there be a day, that you turn so independent that you drive people away because of that ? will those people understand that you drove them away because you did not get help from people - who fitted in the stereotypical roles likewise ?
Will they expect you to expect ?
