Saturday, January 21, 2012

women and babies and men

'European Member of Parliament Takes Her Baby To Work......
Licia Ronzulli, an MEP from Italy, took her seven-week old daughter Victoria to work at the European parliament this week at Strasbourg. And this wasn’t even Take-Your-Child-to-Work day. She kept her baby carefully cradled against her in a sling and occasionally leant to kiss her on the forehead. Photographs of Ronzulli cradling her daughter in a sling as she voted on proposals to improve women's employment rights were broadcast around the world and published in newspapers from the US to Vietnam.'
just saw this on Facebook and this is what came to my mind.
I think it is more of the natural desire of a woman to have a baby. Why should a working woman keep away from having a baby.
I don't think she should be taking a break from work, unless her health does not permit her or if she does not desire to. In fact there should be a design proposed which should help her work hassle -free with the baby if she wishes to work.
Why should a woman take break in her career when she has a baby? I think that is bad for her career. yes I understand, the baby comes first- it should, but does this occur to men? aren't the babies their responsibility too?Has anyone noticed a picture of a man with his baby working as well?
Could a man be able to do this? I dont think so. I think fundamentally, men have a lesser ability of multitasking which woman have in abundance. Yes, naturally it must have been decided that the man goes gets food, while the woman takes care of the baby. But since we are humans, we love to evolve. And there we are with women who take of their babies and household too. Yes it is extremely difficult to walk this rope. But there is no choice in the world of men. I worked in the same way carrying my baby around for work, traveling here and there. Has anyone seen a man doing this (when he has a wife, i am not talking of widowers or divorcee men who don't have a choice than to do this.
I think day by day the challenges for women are increasing far more rapidly than to that for men. hence there should be more designs, thoughts and policies for working women with little cute ones with them.

Monday, January 9, 2012


today was the first day that my little one is gonna spend with her dad. I called up and my husband was really tired looking after her. He has a deadline too. I understand that. I have been through same situations when working from home and hence worked complete nights some time. But today i can understand and be empathetic with him. I can understand what is his state of mind.There are two ways - oh I need to take care of my kid,and OH i have so much work to complete. It almost took a year and half to understand how to handle this. Hence I can understand, that my husband must be really stressed now.
It sometimes comes to my mind, that in case of role reversals, on our minds, we tend to see, whether the other person can perform well in that role too. But here in deep down in my mind, I can empathize with him (my husband) since, I have been doing that. Somewhere the basic inability of guys to not to multitask is shown here. In the same way, I could not build up courage and became weak after child birth. I completely agree that it is a waste of a woman to be a man and the vice-versa is equally true. But today's environment leaves people with no choice. Since both the Husband and wife are working to earn their living, this is so much of an unavoidable situation.All this is so complex. And that is because we make it so much complex. The role reversal is so much complex.
Deep down my heart I am worried, that my husband should not be stressed and feel free to work or do whatever. The same that I feel.I think the reason for this is that love and care that we have for each other.But I guess, the current priority is the child.'we' are a unit and need to understand each other to remain so..

Thursday, January 5, 2012

the first talk

I spoke to my little angel for the first time today. Not that i never spoke before but i think she understood what i said today for the first time. She is not well since 4 days. But today she was able to sit as she is recovering. I told her- I promised her - I will be by her side, will not leave her alone. i will try my best to do everything possible for her so that she would not face the problems i did. so that she will live a more beautiful and better life. I told her grow biigggg!! be a successful person with a few hand gestures. And she signaled as though she understood everything..i felt so nice.. this was the first conversation we had..
it just comes to my mind, will she understand, did she understand? will she.... - nah I don't want to expect. This is gonna be a give-only-love relationship.And I love the way it is..I simply love the twinkle in her eyes, ever seen she is born- those two little shining black lights.. :)